Has the man lost his role as provider? Has the woman truly taken over and dominated that role? Are men secure enough to handle the woman being the breadwinner? Or is there some resentment in that type of competition?
Today I was hanging out with an old friend and he asked me to take him out to breakfast. No problem I do not mind treating a man I am not above paying. So we are hanging out and jokingly he says it is your turn to start coming out of pocket to spend time with me. Initially, I was appalled I mean how audacious to think I have to pay for his time and attention. Yet I thought about how we as women will tell a man quick run me my money when it is really their money. In many eyes the man should be the provider and if he is not what good is he to us.
Originally, I thought that I was going to write about a woman paying for a man’s love and affection. But as I delved deeper I realized that the role reversal has gone wrong and the man as the provider has lost its luster. Many men have gotten too comfortable with allowing us to be the breadwinner. In my experience recently I have been looked at as a meal ticket and I do not like it at all. Granted I am in a good position to pull my weight with a man but I refuse to be the provider that is not a role I am comfortable portraying. For my daughter yes for a man hell no. Maybe I have not evolved enough as a woman to find that to be acceptable.
I cannot pay your rent and mine or buy you a pair of shoes when my baby needs a pair herself. As you all can tell this exchange conjured up a distrubing reaction. I will speak for myself a man should be a provider not me. I will meet him halfway because I believe we should be equally yoked. I prefer not to date men that make less than me neither of us is comfortable with me making the most money. I like a man to be a man at the risk of sounding chauvnistic.
I just don’t understand how a man can allow a woman to lead solo when it comes to finances. I need your input and your half of the money. I refuse to carry all the weight and proudly claim you as my man. As a sidenote he reminded me about the tip without contributing to it he is working his way to the do not call list for that one. One has to wonder when did this role reversal occur. Granted successful women are sexy but not as partners. A man needs to feel needed by his woman. If she is the breadwinner what does she need him for besides sex and they have B.O.B.’s for that.
Please excuse the rant but I firmly believe that we should collectively lead. And occassionally he can take on that role all on his own. I do not wish to lead the household because in all honesty I will look at him as less of a man. Damn I cannot believe I just said that in this independent woman society. They are going to revoke my independent card for that shit. Here I will surrender it now.
Ladies and gentleman are you comfortable with the woman being the breadwinner? Would you feel insignificant men if she made more money than you? Share your thoughts below!