Why is loyalty so hard to come by in relationships? Men and women have trouble with being loyal to their mate. Why is our mate’s time and attention not enough? Believe it or not men are not the only ones who stray, women are guilty too. Makes you wonder is cheating innate or is it learned behavior. Are some of us born to be cheaters or does one bad apple spoil the loyal bunch.
Commitment is a hard pill to swallow. It means being true and loyal to your mate. Not straying when he/she is not around. Why is monogamy so scarce in our society. It is almost expected that infidelity will occur in a relationship. It has become the social norm. People do not want to stand out by being faithful so what he supports you and loves you to piece he cannot put it down like boyfriend number two so oh well. What he doesn’t know won’t get you killed?
People are not even scared of the consequences of their cheating anymore. Why is commitment so damn hard? We will have a good person in our life and have empty meaningless sex. What happened to the negative stain of cheating? We think we are invincible and beyond reproach. Let me put it like this I am a cheater and I want to be reformed but how. I am more scared of being faithful than being caught in the act. The brazen act and the audacioness of never being caught. Always wondering what would you do if you were caught but that day never comes. In the next relationship you want to be faithful but how? An entree isn’t good without something on the side.
Damn you shattered your good girl image but it is true and you have grown tired of hiding from who you truly are. A cheater and one who hates holding in lies. You need a clean slate and want to be honest. When meeting someone new never divulge the fact you are a former cheater because they will never commit to you knowing that. Sometimes you wonder if you are incapable of being faithful . Often being cheated on in the past pre-disposes you to cheating in the future.
Now telling this does not mitigate cheating but it serves as a way to explain how the idea comes to fruition. Leaving you guarded now scared of loving like before for fear of getting hurt. Cheating protects your heart. It keeps you from putting all your eggs in one basket. Something you never like to do. That is why it is so hard to find love. You will have a good man but struggle to be true to him. Surprisingly, you want to be faithful but something keeps calling you back and maybe it is someone you gave your heart to who won’t ever commit to you but will creep with you. Cheating is never worth it.
Just learn from your past transgressions. Even when both of you were cheating did you find any solace in him cheating on you. You were shocked and appalled at his behavior not once did your own infidelity come into play. Fair exchange is no robbery right.
Do you have a cheating problem? Is being faithful an arduous task for you? Share your thoughts below.