Confessions of a Good Girl Gone Bad

Why is loyalty so hard to come by in relationships? Men and women have trouble with being loyal to their mate. Why is our mate’s time and attention not enough? Believe it or not men are not the only ones who stray, women are guilty too. Makes you wonder is cheating innate or is it learned behavior. Are some of us born to be cheaters or does one bad apple spoil the loyal bunch.

Commitment is a hard pill to swallow. It means being true and loyal to your mate. Not straying when he/she is not around. Why is monogamy so scarce in our society. It is almost expected that infidelity will occur in a relationship. It has become the social norm. People do not want to stand out by being faithful so what he supports you and loves you to piece he cannot put it down like boyfriend number two so oh well. What he doesn’t know won’t get you killed?

People are not even scared of the consequences of their cheating anymore. Why is commitment so damn hard? We will have a good person in our life and have empty meaningless sex. What happened to the negative stain of cheating? We think we are invincible and beyond reproach. Let me put it like this I am a cheater and I want to be reformed but how. I am more scared of being faithful than being caught in the act. The brazen act and the audacioness of never being caught. Always wondering what  would you do if  you were caught but that day never comes. In the next relationship you want to be faithful but how? An entree isn’t good without something on the side.

Damn you shattered your good girl image but it is true and you have grown tired of hiding from who you truly are. A cheater and one who hates holding in lies. You need a clean slate and want to be honest. When meeting someone new  never divulge the fact you are a  former cheater because they will never commit to you knowing that. Sometimes you wonder if you are incapable of being faithful . Often being cheated on in the past pre-disposes you to cheating in the future.

Now telling this does not mitigate cheating but it serves as a way to explain how the idea comes to fruition. Leaving you guarded now scared of loving like before for fear of getting hurt. Cheating protects your heart. It keeps you from putting all your eggs in one basket. Something you never like to do. That is why it is so hard to find love. You will have a good man but struggle to be true to him. Surprisingly, you want to be faithful but something keeps calling you back and maybe it is someone you gave your heart to who won’t ever commit to you but will creep with you. Cheating is never worth it.

Just learn from your past transgressions. Even when both of you were cheating did you find any solace in him cheating on you. You were shocked and appalled at his behavior not once did your own infidelity come into play. Fair exchange is no robbery right.

Do you have a cheating problem? Is being faithful an arduous task for you? Share your thoughts below.

He Says: She Should Cheat

According to Tank’s song “Baby I Deserve” she should cheat because he intially cheated. Since when do two wrongs make a right. How absurd is that? Would you condone your mate cheating since you in fact cheated? Let’s explore this topic a little further.

In most if not all relationships there is a great deal of infidelity being commited. Unfortunately, it has become the social norm and almost always expected. The depths that people go to, to cheat is not surprising anymore. Especially, in the age of the jump-off. So if my man cheats it is ok for me to cheat too and he better not bat an eye. Let’s see how many men agree to that. Ladies I do not know about you but when I found out my man cheated on me I was not necessarily in a rush for some revenge cheating. In fact that was the furthest thing from my mind. Truth be told I was still trying to wrap my mind around the fact he commited this infidelity right under my nose. Cleverly, I might add I would have never guess he chose her to cheat with.

Now after we broke up I thought that I should have cheated but only because Keyshia Cole told me so, LOL. Let me stop! Bad joke I know. Being cheated on is devastating for both parties regardless of the premise or reason for it. For some there is no rhyme or reason for this egregious act. Tank’s song really made me question what kind of man would tolerate being direspected and cheated on just to feel better about his own indiscretions?

Now according to the song she could stay out late and come in whenever and it is ok with my man cause he cheated. One would assume that not only is this fool guilt ridden but that his ignorant butt just doesn’t care anymore. I mean you are ok with me seeing another man and then I can tell you not to be mad about it. The man I know would not tolerate such nonesense. Now my man is a insecure man is a man is an emotional wreck. Now what am I going to do with him? I am pissed that he would be audacious enough to imply that just because he has been tempted by the flesh I will succumb to. Pity the fool.

Men give your ladies more credit than that. Please respect the fact that she loves you inspite of your faults. More importantly stop falling prey to other women. Show your woman you are more than a conqueror when it comes to other women. Shower her with love and attention she so richly deserves. In that case you would not have to be walking around emotionally distrubed about your trite acts.

Bottom line is cheating should never be tolerated. The only thing that can absolve a man’s guilt should it happen is forgiveness. He has to forgive himself. He should never be mistreated or lie to because he cheated on you. He needs to move on from his infidelity otherwise he will self destruct and cheat again. Misery loves company.

What about you? Men who you condone your girl cheating if you had previously cheated on her? Ladies how would you feel about your man condoning your cheating to absolve himself of guilt? Share your thoughts below.